The following is an excerpt from Family Fully Alive, a booklet in the Catholic Information Service’s Building the Domestic Church series provided by the Knights of Columbus. This booklet provides thematic readings, reflections and prayers to foster family prayer. For April, we join with our families to remember God’s mercy and forgiveness:
The inner form of Christian familial love is mercy like God the Father who is “rich in mercy” (Eph 2:4).
Pope St. John Paul II has beautifully said mercy is “love’s second name.” Sacred Scripture speaks frequently about Christ’s love in terms of mercy. For instance, there are the memorable parables of the prodigal son (Lk 15:11–32) and the lost sheep (Lk 15:1-7). In fact, Christ’s strongest teaching about the sacredness and lifelong permanence of the marriage bond (Mt 19:12) is preceded by one of his strongest teachings about forgiveness in the parable of the unforgiving servant (Mt 18:21-35).
During the course of the parable of the unforgiving servant, Christ instructs his disciples to forgive not just seven times, but 77 times — a symbolic number that represents a willingness to forgive without limit. In other words, Christ instructs his disciples to love unconditionally by being merciful. The fact that this teaching occurs right before his teaching about marriage’s indissolubility powerfully suggests that marriage, and the family life that flows from it, is to be held together by unconditional mercy. If the family practices mercy, they will be immensely blessed: “Blessed are the merciful, for they will be shown mercy” (Mt 5:7).
From Pope Francis’ Amoris Laetitia
Once we allow ill will to take root in our hearts, it leads to deep resentment. …The opposite of resentment is forgiveness, which is rooted in a positive attitude that seeks to understand other people’s weaknesses and to excuse them. as Jesus said, “father, forgive them; for they know not what they do” (Lk 23:34). Yet we keep looking for more and more faults, imagining greater evils, presuming all kinds of bad intentions, and so resentment grows and deepens. … Something is wrong when we see every problem as equally serious; in this way, we risk being unduly harsh with the failings of others. The just desire to see our rights respected turns into a thirst for vengeance rather than a reasoned defense of our dignity.
When we have been offended or let down, forgiveness is possible and desirable, but no one can say that it is easy. … All this assumes that we ourselves have had the experience of being forgiven by God, justified by his grace and not by our own merits. We have known a love that is prior to any of our own efforts, a love that constantly opens doors, promotes and encourages. If we accept that God’s love is unconditional, that the father’s love cannot be bought or sold, then we will become capable of showing boundless love and forgiving other seven if they have wronged us. otherwise, our family life will no longer be a place of understanding, support and encouragement, but rather one of constant tension and mutual criticism.
A prayer of penance and longing for God’s abundant mercy
Have mercy on me, God, in accord with your merciful love;
in your abundant compassion blot out my transgressions.
Thoroughly wash away my guilt;
and from my sin cleanse me.
for I know my transgressions;
my sin is always before me.
against you, you alone have I sinned;
I have done what is evil in your eyes
so that you are just in your word,
and without reproach in your judgment.
Turn away your face from my sins;
blot out all my iniquities.
a clean heart create for me, God;
renew within me a steadfast spirit.
Do not drive me from before your face,
nor take from me your holy spirit.
Restore to me the gladness of your salvation;
uphold me with a willing spirit.
I will teach the wicked your ways,
that sinners may return to you.
Pope St. John Paul II has beautifully said mercy is “love’s second name.” Sacred Scripture speaks frequently about Christ’s love in terms of mercy. For instance, there are the memorable parables of the prodigal son (Lk 15:11–32) and the lost sheep (Lk 15:1-7). In fact, Christ’s strongest teaching about the sacredness and lifelong permanence of the marriage bond (Mt 19:12) is preceded by one of his strongest teachings about forgiveness in the parable of the unforgiving servant (Mt 18:21-35).
During the course of the parable of the unforgiving servant, Christ instructs his disciples to forgive not just seven times, but 77 times — a symbolic number that represents a willingness to forgive without limit. In other words, Christ instructs his disciples to love unconditionally by being merciful. The fact that this teaching occurs right before his teaching about marriage’s indissolubility powerfully suggests that marriage, and the family life that flows from it, is to be held together by unconditional mercy. If the family practices mercy, they will be immensely blessed: “Blessed are the merciful, for they will be shown mercy” (Mt 5:7).
From Pope Francis’ Amoris Laetitia
Once we allow ill will to take root in our hearts, it leads to deep resentment. …The opposite of resentment is forgiveness, which is rooted in a positive attitude that seeks to understand other people’s weaknesses and to excuse them. as Jesus said, “father, forgive them; for they know not what they do” (Lk 23:34). Yet we keep looking for more and more faults, imagining greater evils, presuming all kinds of bad intentions, and so resentment grows and deepens. … Something is wrong when we see every problem as equally serious; in this way, we risk being unduly harsh with the failings of others. The just desire to see our rights respected turns into a thirst for vengeance rather than a reasoned defense of our dignity.
When we have been offended or let down, forgiveness is possible and desirable, but no one can say that it is easy. … All this assumes that we ourselves have had the experience of being forgiven by God, justified by his grace and not by our own merits. We have known a love that is prior to any of our own efforts, a love that constantly opens doors, promotes and encourages. If we accept that God’s love is unconditional, that the father’s love cannot be bought or sold, then we will become capable of showing boundless love and forgiving other seven if they have wronged us. otherwise, our family life will no longer be a place of understanding, support and encouragement, but rather one of constant tension and mutual criticism.
A prayer of penance and longing for God’s abundant mercy
Have mercy on me, God, in accord with your merciful love;
in your abundant compassion blot out my transgressions.
Thoroughly wash away my guilt;
and from my sin cleanse me.
for I know my transgressions;
my sin is always before me.
against you, you alone have I sinned;
I have done what is evil in your eyes
so that you are just in your word,
and without reproach in your judgment.
Turn away your face from my sins;
blot out all my iniquities.
a clean heart create for me, God;
renew within me a steadfast spirit.
Do not drive me from before your face,
nor take from me your holy spirit.
Restore to me the gladness of your salvation;
uphold me with a willing spirit.
I will teach the wicked your ways,
that sinners may return to you.
If the sacrament of reconciliation is still available in your area (learn more about creative and safe ways some priests are offering the sacrament here), consider taking your family to receive the sacrament, exercising caution to ensure health and safety. Lead your family in regularly praying the Chaplet of Divine Mercy this month. For more information on devotion to Divine Mercy, and how to pray the chaplet, click here. Your family can also join the Sisters of Our Lady of Mercy in their daily livestream Sisters of the Divine Mercy Chaplet from the Saint John Paul II Shrine, available every day at 3 pm EST here.
To learn more about leading your family in prayer, see our full Family Fully Alive booklet provided for free from the Knights of Columbus’ Catholic Information Service. Family Project
If the sacrament of reconciliation is still available in your area (learn more about creative and safe ways some priests are offering the sacrament here), consider taking your family to receive the sacrament, exercising caution to ensure health and safety. Lead your family in regularly praying the Chaplet of Divine Mercy this month. For more information on devotion to Divine Mercy, and how to pray the chaplet, click here. Your family can also join the Sisters of Our Lady of Mercy in their daily livestream Sisters of the Divine Mercy Chaplet from the Saint John Paul II Shrine, available every day at 3 pm EST here.
To learn more about leading your family in prayer, see our full Family Fully Alive booklet provided for free from the Knights of Columbus’ Catholic Information Service.
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